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Many learning behavioral and physical problems are a result of excessive emotional arousal triggered by environmental cues. WebCAER is an effective technology to extinguish these counterproductive responses to these cues. When these triggers are extinguished, the problem behaviors and feelings do not reoccur.

Most problems are actually opportunities to grow, since the affect that drives them is at the surface and thus easily accessed with WebCAER. When a problem happens, the first response in your family should be, "That is something you can work with on WebCAER, NOW."

 

This serves two purposes. First, it gives you something active to do that interrupts any counterproductive exchange, such as advice giving, anger, guilt tripping, arguing, explaining etc. Second, it provides an effective mechanism to extinguish the affect from the situation. This stops the drain on everybody's attentional resources so that any problem solving that must be done to prevent a reoccurrence can be done with everyone having full access to their intelligence, versus often-counter productive, knee-jerk emotional responses.

 

This strategy is extensible to most of the marital, family, behavioral and educational problems that parents face. T How to do this is outlined below. It is a good idea to require your child to use WebCAER on a daily basis. Half an hour a day is a good place to start thinking about school, homework, family and friends issues. Adjust the amount of time as experience dictates.

Acting up

Acting up is not really a problem of behaviors, but the feelings that precede the problem behavior. Undesirable behaviors are triggered by the feeling that goes just before them. The most gentle and efficient way of dealing with inappropriate behavior is to find out what the feeling was just before the behavior. Have the child spend time with WebCAER concentrating on that feeling. Make sure that they follow that feeling back across all the other examples of that feeling in their life. Adding images and recordings of what triggers the feelings can make WebCAER work more quickly.

 

When ever your child causes a problem or expresses a problem, act delighted and say something like ."I am glad you did that. This gives you an opportunity to work on your __(anger, frustration, not listening etc.) ." In the blank put a short phrase that describes the issue that came up.

 

Then request that he go to WebCAER and say some phrase that expresses his feelings about the situation over and over while he watches WebCAER. For example, if he says something like, "I am too stupid to do my homework". When he is using WebCAER, he would repeat out loud 'I am too stupid to do my homework".

 

This will extinguish "I am stupid" feelings.

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